Skip to main content

14th Feb. 2011

14th of February, needless for me to remind you, it's Valentine's Day. The first thought that came to most if not all of you must've been love and romance. Well, that's what the society has imposed on us. In return, we accepted the idea without question. Why? I guess it's pretty simple: We need something to believe in, we need something to hold onto, perhaps what we need is a little hope that there's still love out there for us. In a sense this thirst for love is universal because everyone celebrates it regardless of race, religion, age, sex etc. I could be wrong but it's just a personal hypothesis of mine.

As this widely celebrated day approaches its end this year, let us take some time to ponder or reflect on this thing known as love. Love can be tangible, intangible or even both depending on the context and how you see it. I believe that many of us often see love in couples infatuated with each other, holding hands and doing whatever that reminds you of the word "love". When I say "many of us" earlier on, it clearly includes me. However, something changed my mind on this fateful day.

There are two things that I would like to talk about today and the first being single parents. You don't have to be Einstein to be aware of the fact that divorce rates around the world has been skyrocketing due to various reasons that ranged from sensible to utter crap. I live in a small world and within this small circle alone there's already loads of divorce going on. As if that's not enough, parents fought for custody and child support, sometimes even in front of their own children. Come on, the kids are innocent for goodness' sake. I seriously can't imagine what kind of implications it will have on the children. It's a fact that it takes at least two (a man and a woman) to give birth to another (offspring), technically speaking. If this is the case and couples get together because of love, why is there such a thing as divorce? I do understand that it's a lot more complicated than what I am able to comprehend but whenever there is a child involved in divorce, one can't help but to think that it will affect him/her to a certain extent. I know that there'll always be imperfections in life but it does kills me inside whenever I see those that I care for suffer from divorce, especially the kids.

Secondly, it's about where I see the presence of love. I always think that you must be with someone in order for you to feel love and thus I've always tried to sense love from loving couples. It's a good thing to do when you're in a relationship but it kind of backfires when you're single, double-edged sword huh? Yet another irony in life. Today a fellow member of our church who also happens to be the mother of a friend of mine fell asleep in Christ. After saying our prayers, I saw her husband whose eyes were all red and watery. He was not the only who was so, a lot of her family members must've find it hard to accept the fact that it's only been a month or two since his mother went away and now - his wife. We all know that this is the reality of life and that it goes on no matter what. However, there'll still be sorrow when met with such circumstances. It saddens me as I can sense the grief they are experiencing but at the same time I see love, not in togetherness but this time in the parting between people who are now in two different worlds. I find solace in knowing that behind all the sadness, family members will get together closer than before to find comfort in each other. Instead of looking it from the usual perspective, I've chosen to look at it from another angle. I'm glad that I did so for this is a lesson learnt outside the pages of books. I might have read it before but upon experiencing it myself and seeing it from others, there's this... revelation of some sort. My deepest condolences goes out to the family who've just lost their loved ones and my prayers too are dedicated to them and those children who are troubled with all sorts of family affairs; may all of them walk out from the sadness and grief as a stronger, better person.

This question keeps appearing on my mind:"What have I done to make this world a better place to live in today?" A word of encouragement, a pat on the back or even a smile are able to light up the dark that resides within one's heart. I'm just a nobody who make mistakes too but I do hope and believe that there's love out there in this broken world and most importantly, love prevails. Happy Valentine's Day to everyone out there and may you always be surrounded with love but whether or not you are aware of it, that's another matter altogether. ;)

Comments

Popular posts from this blog

The worst year

If only If only you knew What I knew Of trust And betrayal If only you felt What I felt The agony And despair Most people would probably say that 2020 is like the worst year ever, right? This year has been plagued with one tragedy after another and we are only halfway through it! Anyway, the following is an unpopular opinion of a particular guy: 2019 is actually way worse. Now before you go after him with pitchforks and torches, please allow him to provide you with the context in which such a statement would make total sense.  "OK Google/ Hey Siri, play I'm Not The Only One by Sam Smith." On the fateful day that is 2 June 2019, he was having home-cooked noodles at her place as breakfast while brooding over his postgraduate study. You see, he had an appointment the next day with his supervisor and the lack of progress on the writing of his literature review had been weighing him down for weeks. Then it happened. "Let's break up." It must have taken his brain...

Life is like a dream

Life is like a dream, isn’t it? Everything comes and goes before you knew it. Most of the times, we can’t really recall what we dreamt of the previous minute when we were fast asleep and yet, we had already woke up from it. Be that as it may, there were still dreams where you’ll never forget, not while you can still breathe. Some of them consist of nightmares while the rest, or rather most of them, were sweet dreams. Nobody can stay awake for their whole life; one must take a rest and sleep. However, it is also impossible for one to fell asleep all the time either. I know it sounds contradicted but that is the fact. Dreams can’t be programmed, unlike the computer. Therefore, it is similar to life: it is at some point yours’, but not exactly yours actually. @.@” When I am having a nightmare, I would say to myself:” Oh, what a dream!? I wonder how long this will last”. It is interesting because the answer that it expected ( which is:” Not for very long, I should think”) always appears wh...

感慨

大学毕业以后,人生进入了另一个阶段。在这人生旅途中,很幸运的遇到了许多一直以来包容我、扶持我的人;或者是家人、朋友、又或者是陌生的一张脸孔,这一切都不重要。 在累积美好回忆的当儿,岁月的流逝难免还是会为这短暂的人生带来一些些的感慨,毕竟完美这回事终究是可望不可及,一味的执著只会让所有事情更加的不堪。 旧地重游,曾经多么熟悉的一切竟然人事已非,叫人怎么不叹息岁月匆匆啊?道别后,昔日的情人知己尽已分道扬镳:有的事业有成、有的结婚生子、更有的两者皆如意。在为大家高兴的当儿,失落的心情也静悄悄的潜入了心里。虽然说这些年来都过得很好,却始终抹不去那一份若有所失的感觉。偶尔会不禁地问问自己,生命到底有什么意义。看来,我又开始情绪化了。 打从踏入职场后,悠闲似乎离得我好远好远。有些时候我真的好想放下肩上扛着的重担歇一歇,甚至是放下一切远走高飞我也在所不惜,走得越远越好。但人总是得活在现实中,即使我有多么的不愿,职责还是得要履行,且不单是为了我自己,也同时为家人、朋友、社会等的前途而打拼。衷心地希望有一天所付出的一切会为世界带来一丁点的美好,哪怕它有多渺小。值得与否,至少努力过就好。 懂我的人应该都知道我是多么的虚伪,为了保护自己而时常戴上不同的面具迎人。话说回来,知道了又如何?人,就是得随机应变,在这适者生存的社会里,更为如此。最近常把因果这词挂在嘴边,不是因为我害怕会遭天谴,也并非我奢望得到什么回报。简单来说,我从小就被灌输类似的一个概念:得饶人处且饶人;处在相同的情况下你希望他人如何对待你,你便如何对待他人。讽刺的是,如此一个概念常让我陷入为难中,尤其是当情况不允许我仁慈的时候,我却偏偏很不下心来。看来,要把这本性移掉的话恐怕非请愚公不可了。坦白说,我还是与周公交情较为深厚,所以狠心这一回事还是算了吧。 无论一个人言行上有多坏多冷酷,他的内心深处还是渴望着被疼爱与珍惜。不要放弃希望,更不要为了一些无谓的事情而迷失了自己。要知道,快乐并不全取自于自身的享受,而是在于将喜悦分享给他人当中。 P.S. 原以为想在此宣泄一下情绪,没想到中途却转了念,像个老人般地谈起人生来。无论如何,愿有缘听我倾诉的你生命中的每一天都是那么的美好。 :)